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‘Me Thinking’—drop the loo roll and control yourself.

When someone says, "You are being selfish," The message is very clear: You are paying too much attention to your own wants, needs, and well-being, and not enough attention to others. The challenge we face is that during times of uncertainty, the part of the brain that copes with anxiety disrupts a different part of the brain that controls behaviour. The result can be increased fear and group-thinking behaviour, which increases our fight or flight response,…

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Denying or shutting out thoughts of the Coronavirus will not help.

Morning Thoughts: Emotional intelligence is the ability to make emotions work for you instead of against you, and where you think about your feelings and the feelings of others, especially at this very stressful time. You start by washing your hands and following all the advice from professionals. You realise the importance of behaviour towards others and you make every effort to help and support those who need it. You stop yourself being influenced by…

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Self Image is a False Identity, but we don’t notice it as a lie.

 Its’s not what you say out of your mouth that determines your life, it’s what you whisper to yourself that has the most power! – Robert Kiyosaki Your self-image is what you think about yourself and what you tell yourself about what and who you are. It’s also severely affected by what you think other people think of you – your weight, attractiveness, intelligence and it can impact so many things. Once you’ve decided on…

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There is no real performance without a little fanaticism from the performer?

“Choose a job you love, and you will never have to work a day in your life,” which is often attributed to Confucius. Tonight, I speak to a large number of people on performance and passion. I always think there is no real performance without a little fanaticism from the performer. To me performance without passion is like walking through a desert without water. All effort; no subsistence. A life of passion is a good life, or so…

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My natural behaviour is to take risks

Failure is not a step backward, it’s an excellent stepping stone to success. We never learn to move out of our comfort zone if we don’t overcome our fear of failure. Failing is an inevitable part of creating our destiny, and has allowed me to follow my biggest dreams. It can be scary as some people delight in our failure, and wish us harm. I see them on the street. I meet them in the…

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Sometimes I drive myself crazy. #MorningZenThought

I drove out into nothingness today. My problem was that my brain came with me. I sometimes find myself in an endless cycle of rumination. Thoughts have energy and that energy has to flow somewhere. Fighting to keep it out of my head, achieves little. In “The Mindful Way through Depression,” authors Mark Williams, John Teasdale, Zindel Segal, and Jon Kabat-Zinn write, “Sorting things out, and forcing a solution will always seem like the most…

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Whoever is trying to pull you down is always below you.

Whoever is trying to pull you down is always below you. I work with a lot of super stars who attract celebrity status.. I know nothing about Caroline Flack or the tragic circumstances of her life. From the bare facts I have read like you I am incredibly saddened. In very sad situations like Caroline Flack Mike Thalassitis, and Amy Winehouse, and even Meghan Markle, many people are asking whose fault this is and where…

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Prayer is talking to the Universe. Meditation is listening to it.

All of the individuals I work with must practice meditation as part of their regular coaching sessions. Why? I use it as a key cornerstone of my Mindset Programmes of Mental Reflection and Mental Redirection. Long before the advent of modern science and medicine, dedicated meditation has been used by many people as an effective technique to work on their mind, and also to provide relaxation, well-being and better health. Meditation when done properly can…

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Gut or Brain?

 “Tears come from the heart and not from the brain”Leonardo da Vinci  Imagine the scene – you’re at a yearly shareholder meeting and the CEO of a huge, global company stands up and announces a whole new, drastically different strategy. One that’s based on nothing but their gut feeling. You can imagine the disbelief, right? The heckling, the shouts of the shareholder.  Surely a decision as important as this should be thought out carefully, deliberately and rationally, possibly…

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