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Everyone dies … not everyone lives

My 11 year old  son Ethan asked if I did understand the 3 Ls and when I asked what they are,  he said they are the most important lesson in life, and that if we implement them, it will make a huge difference to the kind of life we have. Obviously, I was intrigued. He told me the 3 Ls stand for: Live - Live in the moment Love - Love widely and inclusively Learn - Learn to forget Fantastic words and so meaningful to us all. Too often, we spend huge amounts of time travelling  back to our past and we don't live there anymore. We spend 80% of our time worrying about things that probably will never happen and only 20% living today. We waste so much of our irreplaceable time wishing our lives into the future, when there is so much loving and living still available to us today. So we should focus on the important things. Here is a story I share in one of my workshop: (Original source unknown) I remember standing in front in front of a group of students. I picked up a very large and empty jar and proceeded to fill it…

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Heavy profit losses & serious job losses in our recent survey

An overwhelming majority of businesses are bracing for heavy profit losses following the Covid-19 pandemic, according to a new survey we completed in June 2020. What we saw within the survey is rising concerns across the world that Covid-19 will have a devastating impact on business life. I spoke to the owner of major food and bar chain, and they are predicting a reduction of  33% in revenue and  a 40% reduction in staffing numbers, whilst another CEO - a major supplier to airports - told me that the shock to their business is so great that achieving financial stability will result in over 60% staff reductions. Another CEO of a major resource global industry told me that demand was so weak that they would have to change their whole operating model with serious impact on revenue and staffing. A CEO at one of the big sporting institutions told me that the loss of revenue was going to need a five year recovery  plan and the leader of a large City Council said the likelihood is that they would go bust. These worries about COVID-19 and the potential of a new wave of infections are the major concern for 58%…

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Are face masks the new condoms?

We will be less touchy-feely and far more wary - and the transition will feel strange. I have just visited my great friend Peter’s new street food restaurant at Crusoe’s on the beach at Tynemouth. My friend Peter is a very “huggy touchy-feely” sort of bloke, and is often known to give me full on hugs with kisses. It was difficult visiting him and adhering to social distancing as it is in his DNA to hug. I was particularly struck by how much I miss physical contact with other human beings. Now, I am not described as a big hugger, but this is the longest period in my life that I have gone without skin-to-skin human touch. As we’re preparing to go out into the world once more, the warm embrace of my friend Peter's greeting could be judged to be, potentially, too dangerous. “Touchy-feely” behaviour in general could cease to be acceptable, and with it, everything about a world normally full of physical contact might change.

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It’s in our struggles that we define ourselves

We are now facing the biggest crisis of our generation. The decisions made by leaders and governments in the coming months will reshape our world completely. They will reshape, not just our healthcare systems, but also our economy, politics, culture and our children’s future world. The effects of the coronavirus pandemic and the change it will embed in our physiological, social, and political landscape will propagate across generations. This is a time of change. It presents an opportunity to change and to be part of the change that will occur.

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#Leadership for a post-covid world

Crisis have a way of revealing, course-correcting and re-calibrating what leadership really means. This is a moment that calls for Countries, Companies and Leaders all over the world to reinvent themselves. It’s about mobilizing dignity at scale, managing personal and organisational health, adopting new mindsets, skillful communication, and what I call #leadership.

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From solitary to open street

If it’s not in your dreams, you can't achieve it. In a week where we have seen solitary isolation end with re-entry to the streets from the pandemic, combined with a huge global surge in street marches in favour of #BlackLivesMatter, a crash in our economy, growing job losses, and a significant increase in mental problems - there is a lot to worry about. While we can adapt to the changes that whirl around us, it takes time and effort to shift long-standing habits. Initially, we all had considerable concern about isolation – and now, many of us are actually fearing the end of isolation, because it is yet another change and it is causing us to lose control over our smaller contained world, where we felt safe. Many of us are now thinking about limiting our exposure to the world, as re-entry is totally frightening between the contagious nature of the virus and the world-wide economic woes. We are thinking of hunkering down and playing safe.

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Mindset Magic

Henry Ford famously said If you think you can do a thing or think you can't do a thing, you're right. As we go through life, we all try to understand where we fit within our tribe, our herd, our pack, our crowd, our club, our team our organization, our company.  We have an insatiable thirst to understand and establish our status, our exclusivity, where we belong. As human beings, we are as motivated by status and exclusivity as any pack animal. We all want to do our best and be successful and yet so many of us fail to achieve our targets. Why is it that some people are more successful than others? Why do some people succeed where others crash and burn? Why do some people thrive with risk when others become paralyzed? Why do some people hesitate when others strike?  Why is that some people are filled with apprehensions while others are so certain? Paulo Coelho Whenever you want to achieve something, keep your eyes open, concentrate and make sure you know exactly what it is you want. No one can hit their target with their eyes closed. When I work with elite performers, success is the ultimate goal.…

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‘Me Thinking’—drop the loo roll and control yourself.

When someone says, "You are being selfish," The message is very clear: You are paying too much attention to your own wants, needs, and well-being, and not enough attention to others. The challenge we face is that during times of uncertainty, the part of the brain that copes with anxiety disrupts a different part of the brain that controls behaviour. The result can be increased fear and group-thinking behaviour, which increases our fight or flight response, our basic, animal instinct. The outcome then is increased ‘me thinking’. Right now, we as a nation and as global citizens need to come together to fight what can only be called an existential threat to humanity. Never have the famous JFK words being more appropriate "Ask not what your country can do for you; ask what you can do for your country," The panic buying, the stockpiling, is indicative of some people making no considerations of anyone else’s needs, but their own. We can reduce the urge for fight or flight, by being more self aware of our ‘thinking experience', We have to avoid panicking by understanding, and accepting the anxiety caused by the corona-virus threat, making sure that the information we are receiving…

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Denying or shutting out thoughts of the Coronavirus will not help.

Morning Thoughts: Emotional intelligence is the ability to make emotions work for you instead of against you, and where you think about your feelings and the feelings of others, especially at this very stressful time. You start by washing your hands and following all the advice from professionals. You realise the importance of behaviour towards others and you make every effort to help and support those who need it. You stop yourself being influenced by others' selfishness in stock piling. You play your part by recognising the power of a few small words to brighten someone's day. You praise sincerely and specifically by consistently looking for the good in others - especially health workers. You control your thoughts. Instead of dwelling on feelings that are self-destructive, you focus on productive thoughts, and work on moving forward helping us all deal with this crisis.

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