Its’s not what you say out of your mouth that determines your life, it’s what you whisper to yourself that has the most power! – Robert Kiyosaki
Your self-image is what you think about yourself and what you tell yourself about what and who you are. It’s also severely affected by what you think other people think of you – your weight, attractiveness, intelligence and it can impact so many things. Once you’ve decided on your personal self-image, it can be hard to change it. The challenge is you form a rigid picture or “schema” about yourself. This is driven in part by our internal critic. We all have an inner critic. It’s the little voice inside of your head urging you to get things done, or pressuring you to do things to gain the acceptance of others, or simply telling you that you’re not good enough. Your inner critic is notorious for whispering destructive sentiments into your psyche. It’s so vital that, when you look in the mirror, you value the person staring back at you. Start by stop comparing your self to others. Use self compassionate talk, which involves treating yourself with kindness when you make a mistake, fail, or experience a setback. Speaking to yourself harshly, won’t motivate you to do better. In fact, studies show it tends to have the opposite effect. Embrace self doubt. Sometimes, people put off doing things until they feel more confident. But sometimes, the best way to gain confidence is by doing. Avoid people and places that treat you badly or make you feel bad about yourself. And remember you are a special human being, that has a story to tell and a footprint on this life to leave. Do not allow the doubts, fears or lack of self belief to hold you back.