HOW TO DEVELOP THE MINDSET OF A WINNER
To control the mind is like trying to control a drunken monkey that has been bitten by a scorpion.
One day, long ago you are out doing that cool ‘hunter-gatherer’ thing that our ancestors did,
you stop for a moment to enjoy the wonderful scenery around you. To your right, lurking behind a bush, you see an animal. You’ve never seen anything like it before. It’s a big lion.
“Wow, what a fascinating creature.” you think. “I’ll head over there and take a closer look at that interesting thing”.
Perhaps the lion is friendly, in which case you may enjoy an interesting encounter. More likely, you’re mauled to death. The thinking our ancestors who survived had—- was to be careful of any threat, to go negative first, not to take large risks and you know what it worked as they lived to tell the tale.
Today, we are the descendants of the savants of risk aversion.
We have inherited this negativity bias which a bias towards caution, and this is a tendency we still value, as evidenced by our idioms of curiosity killed the cat, better the devil you know, and leave it well enough alone.
As a Mindset Coach, or as some people call me, a Mental Conditioning Coach, I help people change that negativity biased thinking so you don’t get mauled but so that you can also thrive in an environment in which our ancestors’ thinking is obsolete.
I want to introduce you to my world. A world of minds, thought, behaviours and biases with muddled thinking and bizarre actions
As I look at the mindset world, I find that so many people are like vultures to a carcass, drawn to what hurts and to what hurts them most.
I once read a Buddhist saying which goes, we want happiness, and yet we chase our suffering. Why? What’s at the root of our mind’s addiction to a mindset that does us no service and in fact hinders our success.
For most of human history, our decisions have favoured those with a pessimistic view. We may have missed out on some opportunities but in a threat-filled world, expecting the worst significantly increased the probability that our DNA would remain in the gene pool.
A negativity bias in our thinking was absolutely essential. Now fast forward a few millennia and our bodies and brains continue to be built according to much the same genetic load that influenced our ancestor’s predispositions.
Our brains continue to operate in accordance with this negativity bias which was useful to our ancestors but will not help us thrive today. The bias our brain has that ‘bad’ is stronger than ‘good’ as a general principle, is not where we need to be today.
Since we need the negative focus to survive, but a positive one to thrive, how can we shift this unwise and unhelpful habit of ours?
Today we must thrive and grow if we are to be successful. The solution to the challenge I purpose is a mindset shift. nd one where we manually adjust from 95% automatic thinking and we move to manual management of our thinking until we adjust our mindsets thinking to a different level.
What is that mindset thinking, or more so what is a winner’s mindset?
Now to some, winning may seem too aggressive or smug. However, in the context of what I do, winning is taking the talent and potential you were born with, and have since learnt and developed, and using more effectively towards achieving a goal, a performance or a purpose that makes you happy and fulfilled.
Mindset is the set of beliefs that affects how you think, feel, behave and act.
Here is a question for you to consider. Why is it that some people seem to shine and thrive in any sphere in which they choose to exert themselves, while others cannot manage even a glimmer of success despite their very obvious talent?
What I know is from this vast experience is that winners, have developed their mindset to deliver their success and match their success.
In my own deep research across thousands of industries that individuals who actively develop a winner’s mindset
- earn more, three times more in fact on average;
- are much more successful in their career and get promoted more;
- stay longer than others in employment in difficult times;
- achieve higher and more consistent outcomes in sports; and
- as leaders, build great loyalty and commitment from their teams
I also know that teams and businesses who actively develop a winner’s mindset
- achieve great success
- are much more collaborative
- are more resilient and innovative
How do I know this? Or more so, why do I say this?
Mindsets vary drastically from one person to another – some people have positive and optimistic mindsets while others are negative and pessimistic. Some mindsets are honed on success and motivation, while others may be far less ambitious.
The research and evidence produced by Professor Carol Dweck of Stanford University provides undeniable proof that the key is not about ability, but about people’s beliefs about their ability. In her phenomenal book “Mindset – The New Psychology of Success and How We can Learn to Fulfil Our Potential” she has shown that these beliefs affect people’s behaviours, performance and whether they achieve their best.
She identifies two mindsets:
- Fixed Mindset – Intelligence is fixed
- Growth Mindset – Intelligence is developed
What she discovered was that our attitudes were the secret to success. What I have added to her research is ‘what we think, we become’.
I know from my own research and my own personal experience of managing coaching across 80,000 people in 65 countries that mindset is the edge that delivers in every part of our life.
- It is the secret to success.
- It is the missing edge for so many
- It makes you more money
- It helps you win in life, sport performance
- It delivers greater relationships
Let’s break it down.
We know that it’s the mental game that counts, whether it’s sports or business. Because the mind is controlling the body. You have to think of the brain as the computer system, and you have to think of your belief system as your software. Most of us, we go through the day and we’re thinking all day long.
That’s what the mind does. It thinks, and you’re either aware of the thought or you’re not, but you’re thinking all the time.
Most people’s definition of success is the avoidance of failure. People who are really successful will tell you their definition of success is their response to failure, and they would actually argue that you have to have failure to succeed. In other words, there’s no such thing of success without failure.
However, you have to build a winning mindset over time as winning mindsets aren’t innate, they’re developed.
Mindset can dictate how you view yourself and the world around you. Mindsets create a powerful self-image that can create or remove self-imposed limitations within your own belief system. Successful mindset people understand what Spartan warriors used to say: “Sweat in practice so you don’t bleed in war.”
A lot of people neglect training their mind and their self-belief, but I believe that’s crucial You’ve got to master your mind before you master your life. When you become the master of your mind, you are master of everything. You know when an individual is successful, we tend to look first at their external skills. However, the difference is what you can’t see — their inner mindset.
These inner mindsets qualities are something we can all develop, nurture, and benefit from. Think about it: You are the only one who decides how you respond and interpret your situation. Only you determine the quality and content of your thoughts! You have everything you need right now to embrace a winning mindset, so … Be the Mindset you wish to see.