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Don’t tell me to cheer up

Henry Ford once famously said If you think you can do a thing or think you can't do a thing, you're right. Right through Covid, mental health has been one of the most challenging things I have had to coach. Depression, anxiety, negativity, loneliness and a sense of loss or darkness all combine in some people to varying degrees of complexity, and now are exasperated by the piling economic woes that like a tsunami army are marching towards us. I have been coaching John - not his real name - for the past two years. He has been living much of his life with anxiety and depression. John is fragile and some recent events seem to have broken his resilience. John is now also overwhelmed by negative feelings – shame and self-doubt. His relationships are crashing around him, his business is collapsing, his life feels so empty yet his head is so full of thoughts. John has lost count of the number of times ‘well-meaning friends’ have said to him, "Cheer up. Keep smiling. Count yourself lucky. Be positive. Snap out of it.” As though his depression would suddenly lift and his demons be immediately vanquished, if only he stopped…

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Don’t judge people

#MindU~~ All it takes is a beautiful fake smile to hide an injured mind. Nobody really knows what another person is going through. Reach out a hand not a fist. Everyone needs help. Every mind matters... #MorningZenThought

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The REAL priorities …

#MindU~~ The KEY to focusing on the things that are important, is NOT to prioritise what’s on your schedule, BUT to action the priorities that deliver value to you, your relationships, your health and your life #MorningZenThought

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Everyone dies … not everyone lives

My 11 year old  son Ethan asked if I did understand the 3 Ls and when I asked what they are,  he said they are the most important lesson in life, and that if we implement them, it will make a huge difference to the kind of life we have. Obviously, I was intrigued. He told me the 3 Ls stand for: Live - Live in the moment Love - Love widely and inclusively Learn - Learn to forget Fantastic words and so meaningful to us all. Too often, we spend huge amounts of time travelling  back to our past and we don't live there anymore. We spend 80% of our time worrying about things that probably will never happen and only 20% living today. We waste so much of our irreplaceable time wishing our lives into the future, when there is so much loving and living still available to us today. So we should focus on the important things. Here is a story I share in one of my workshop: (Original source unknown) I remember standing in front in front of a group of students. I picked up a very large and empty jar and proceeded to fill it…

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Say NO to busyness

#MindU~~ In order to say yes to the things that matter to you or to those that are important to you, you must learn to say NO to busyness. If it’s important to you, you will find a way. If not, you will find an excuse. #MorningZenThought

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The power of the 3 Ls

#MindU~~ My 11 year old  son Ethan asked if I understand the 3 Ls. When I asked what they are,  he said they are the most important lesson on life, and if we implement them, it will make a huge difference to the kind of life we have. Obviously, I was intrigued. He told me the 3 Ls stand  for Live - Live in the moment Love - Love widely and inclusively Learn - Learn to forget Fantastic words and so meaningful to us all. Too often, we spend huge amounts of time travelling  back to our past and yet we don't live there anymore. We spend 80% of our time worrying about things that probably will never happen and only 20% living today. We waste so much of our irreplaceable time wishing our lives into the future, when there is so much loving and living still available to us today. #MorningZenThought

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Heavy profit losses & serious job losses in our recent survey

An overwhelming majority of businesses are bracing for heavy profit losses following the Covid-19 pandemic, according to a new survey we completed in June 2020. What we saw within the survey is rising concerns across the world that Covid-19 will have a devastating impact on business life. I spoke to the owner of major food and bar chain, and they are predicting a reduction of  33% in revenue and  a 40% reduction in staffing numbers, whilst another CEO - a major supplier to airports - told me that the shock to their business is so great that achieving financial stability will result in over 60% staff reductions. Another CEO of a major resource global industry told me that demand was so weak that they would have to change their whole operating model with serious impact on revenue and staffing. A CEO at one of the big sporting institutions told me that the loss of revenue was going to need a five year recovery  plan and the leader of a large City Council said the likelihood is that they would go bust. These worries about COVID-19 and the potential of a new wave of infections are the major concern for 58%…

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